Implied in every Gestalt group is the assumption that you will endeavour to be authentic, open and honest, and work for the good of yourself and others.
Experiment and play
Risk opening yourself to others and reducing your guard; experiment with being non-judgemental; give yourself permission to play with new ways of being you.
Act on your needs
Choose for yourself when to opt out of activities that appear wrong for you at the time; do not collude in situations that you feel are personally unhealthy for you.
Be here and now
Endeavour to engage with what is happening in the moment, share how you are currently feeling and what you are thinking – right now! (Simplify rather than construct elaborate statements that distort with explanation or avoid the immediacy of experience; specify rather than generalise)
Check things out rather than project your interpretations and meanings upon others; engage in exploration of what arises and how this affects you and others.
Share and practice your reality with responsible language
Speak from the authority of your own experience, i.e. “I think…”, “I feel…”, “I observe…”, “I imagine…”, rather than “One thinks…”, “People tend to…”, etc.
Ask ‘how’ rather than ‘why’ questions
Invite others to share their observations and responses, rather than to explain their reasons. (‘Why’ questions take you out of your body into your head and into thinking. ‘How’ questions keep you in your body and with how your are feeling)
Clarify your intention
When you speak be clear if you are supporting, challenging or seeking clarification.
Respect your own and others’ privacy
Take responsibility for sharing or holding onto your secrets; don’t leak material beyond the group, nor share information about others in the group without their consent; do not report beyond the group what others have said or done, nor identify them; by all means share with family and friends what you did but keep others confidential.